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Self-Care When Life Falls Apart

Seizures Happen We were at the hospital once again. Another seizure. We were used to the seizures. Our youngest son started having them at two years old. He had 50 to 100 petite mals per day and periodic grand mal seizures. (Or absence seizures and tonic clonic seizures) Only this time – my four year old son’s seizure lasted over forty five minutes. And this time – the whole family felt the tremendous shock and trauma of the seizure. My oldest son locked the door as we waited for the ambulance to arrive. When I asked him what he was… Continue Reading This Article

The Importance of Hula Hoops in Your Relationship

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The Principle of the Hula Hoop I think one of the most important things a couple can do to improve their relationship is to learn and practice the principle of “Staying In Your Own Hula Hoop.” What I mean is it is so very easy to point the finger at our partner and talk about how they are making the marital relationship difficult. It’s easy to become focused on how desperately we want them to change, isn’t it? After all, if you knew the person we had to live with, you’d want them to change too, wouldn’t you? Focusing on… Continue Reading This Article

My 4 Inspirational Blogs to Inspire and Comfort You

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I love to be inspired, don’t you? I love to inspire others. But the only way I can inspire others is to be inspired first. Paul talks about comfort in 2 Corinthians 1:3. He goes about basically saying, “We comfort from the comfort we have been comforted with.” Do you know what that means? That means I want to learn from those who have felt the pain. I want to learn from those who have dared to feel pain – Been vulnerable – Received comfort. When I think about leaders I want to follow and be inspired by, I think… Continue Reading This Article

Being Intentional About Rest

We’ve all been there. Hurrying through our week. Working hard to make a living. And then, the weekend comes! Time to rest. Right? Not right. We’ve lost the “Intentional Rest” we used to practice as families. With the soccer games, swim team, softball practices, shopping and yard work. We have miscellaneous activities to accomplish on the weekends. Families have lost the ability to rest. We’ve lost the importance of rest. Not very long ago, I got a hold of John Ortberg’s book, ‘Soul Keeping.‘ Ortberg talks about what it is to take care of the most important part of us…. Continue Reading This Article

How to Handle Couple Criticism

Are you a part of a couple where it is starting to feel like you can’t do anything right in your relationship? You make a decision with the kids and get second-guessed. You wear something, only to hear, “You’re not wearing that, are you?” Sometimes it might feel like whether you eat, breathe, or move there’s always a negative comment coming from your partner. We’ve talked about Solutions for the Culprit of Criticizing. Now, let’s talk about How to Handle being the Criticized. How do a lot of people handle the “drip, drip, drip” of a critical partner? And how… Continue Reading This Article

Solutions to Couples Criticizing

Couples often get stuck in destructive habits with each other. Criticism is one of these habits. Criticism often starts a spiral downward for the couple. One partner criticizes. The other Partner defends. One partner ramps up the criticism to contempt. The other partner stonewalls. And so it goes. The negativity cycle of destruction spins a couple into loneliness within the marriage. The once happy and carefree couple often wonders if they will ever be able to get out of the walking deadness of their marriage. There are solutions. There is hope. Criticism has antidotes to it. Whether you are the… Continue Reading This Article

Ways we “Accidentally” Criticize

Criticism is one of the 4 Horsemen couples need to watch out for in their marriage. I began writing  about Dr. John Gottman’s 4 Horsemen of miserable marriages in my previous blog, The Marriage-Relationship Saga. According to Gottman’s research, Criticism will take the “happy” out of the ever-after in no time flat.When one partner gets in the habit of expressing the negative or the “just a thought,” the other partner will begin to feel discouraged. Discouragement easily leads to feelings of resentment and hopelessness. Thus starts the negativity cycle in a marriage.We all have thoughts about things others are doing around us. It’s… Continue Reading This Article