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Signs You Have A Holiday Hang-Over & How To Recover

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Are you still hearing a lot of “How were your holidays?” or “I hope your holidays were wonderful?” And each time you hear these questions – you’re cringing inside. Perhaps you are just beginning to come to the realization you have a Holiday Hang-Over. It’s going to take some time and effort to recover from the emotional let-down you feel from the less-than-perfect holiday season. You’re not alone. You’re not weird to feel a sense of loss weeks after the holidays are actually over. People are feeling it all over the world. Some have felt it for years – after… Continue Reading This Article

These Three Things Will Improve Your Marriage

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Marriage is just hard sometimes, isn’t it? Wouldn’t you like some secrets from the Masters of Marriage on how to hedge your bets on your marriage not only lasting, but lasting Happily Ever After? Well, now – I have just the thing for today. Some quick and easy tips guaranteed to make life easier and your marriage happier. But first, let’s talk about patterns of relating to each other. -Or how we learned to dance the relationship dance. Both people come into a marriage with a history of relationships from their past. I’m not referring to prior dating relationships or… Continue Reading This Article

Owning Your Part When You Hurt The Dance

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Remember what Maya Angelou said? “When someone shows you how they feel, believe them the first time.” But what if you’re the one who did the injury? What if you’re the person who hurt your partner in marriage, your close friend, a colleague or worse yet, someone you barely know? How do you repair the relationship and earn back the trust you broke? What To Do When You’ve Hurt You’re Loved One 1. Think About What Happened What was going on for you when you said or did what you did? How do you think the other person felt? How… Continue Reading This Article

How Hurts Can Make The Relationship Dance Sweeter

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Maya Angelou once said, “When someone shows you who they are, Believe them -the first time.” My daughter can do an excellent imitation of Maya Angelou stating this encouragement. She always makes me either smile or groan when she quotes Ms. Angelou. It really depends on the occasion and the subject. And believe you me, throughout the years of childhood, adolescents and young adulthood, we have had many an opportunity to quote this statement in our household. Faithful friends and not-so-faithful friends are difficult to sort through. “But – How does this apply to me,” you ask? Well – Sit… Continue Reading This Article

Stonewalling – The Ultimate Weapon of Destruction For Couples

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Have you ever heard yourself saying, “I feel like I’m talking to a wall?” or “I might as well be talking to myself!” Has anyone been saying these statements to you lately? If so, you might have Stonewalling as part of the Destructive Dance to your relationship. But, wait. It can get worse. –If both of you have begun to practice Stonewalling, there is a strong probability the relationship is circling the drain. The results of Dr. John Gottman’s research showed Stonewalling to be one of the most destructive behaviors in a relationship. It’s one of the 4 Horsemen we… Continue Reading This Article

How to Notice If Contempt is Part of The Couple

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We’re going to return to the Marriage-Relationship Saga again. Back on the range with the Couple of the Hour, Bob and Kate. As they assess the way they’d been riding together, their focus turns to the Disaster Ride of Calico Contempt. Contempt sounds like such a nasty word, doesn’t it? I mean, you’d have to be a pretty mean person to actually practice contempt, right? And being a couple who had contempt? Well, that would never happen to them! After all they were the couple who marched down the aisle to “Happy To Be Stuck With You.” Their wedding day… Continue Reading This Article

Horses in My Marriage Bed-1

Dr. John Gottman informed me about 10 years ago, there were horses in my marriage bed. He had been doing research for years in his couples’ lab about happily married couples versus those couples who were miserable or on the verge of divorce. Dr. Gottman’s research showed there were four horsemen I needed to keep out of my marriage. My husband and I read about these horses and took a quick assessment of our arena. At the time, the horses were running like wild stallions stampeding for water in the Sahara through our marriage! We knew we had to do… Continue Reading This Article