Trauma & EMDR
Life’s situations can cause hurts to go into the very fiber of our being. Some of these hurts can be defined as traumas.
Trauma does not need to be defined as a horrific experience that no one else has ever experienced. The effects of a humiliating experience when we were young, for instance, can be a pain that remains difficult to overcome and put in the past.
You may have experienced a career of working as a first responder, or any other helping career, that causes Compassion Fatigue. You may have experienced sexual assault, harassment, physical abuse, or emotional abuse. Your “Trauma” can be a capital “T” trauma or a small “t” trauma. Either way, you deserve freedom from the effects of the trauma. You deserve to no longer have the effects prevent you from growing and becoming everything you know you can be and are called to be.
Trauma therapy can help with these situations.
One form of trauma therapy I use is EMDR, (Eye Movement Desensitization & Reprocessing). EMDR is an evidence-based tool approved by the Veterans Administration to be an accepted and effective treatment for Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). This treatment does not just work for PTSD, but also works for success blocks, emotional blocks, sports performance enhancement, and anxiety disorders. And, yes. EMDR helps the past become the past.
EMDR is a technique of therapy which has been proven to be effective in resolving life’s hurts. EMDR is also useful to resolve pain a person may not define as a trauma– Pain remaining from an encounter in the past, leaving behind emotional scar tissue. I can help you move beyond the traumas you may have experienced, as well as the pain of the past you are not able to move beyond. I am Certified in EMDR and am an EMDRIA Approved Consultant.
As the EMDR Institute website says, “EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) is a psycholtherapy that enables people to heal from the symptoms and emotional distress that are the result of disturbing life experiences. Repeated studies show that by using EMDR people can experience the benefits of psychotherapy that once took years to make a difference.”
“And they lived happily ever after” just doesn’t seem to happen, does it? Having been married for over 33 years and still being in love with my husband and the father of my four children, I know marriage is full of twists and turns. The relationship itself has stressors and sometimes stressors outside the relationship work like termites, attempting to destroy the foundation. If we don’t develop skills and become intentional about keeping our relationship alive and healthy, we can easily become another statistic of a failed marriage.
Many couples find themselves in difficult seasons of a marriage. The hope is the season will pass and the “loving feeling” will return. I help couples who are stuck. I help couples who have lost hope. I help couples who are wondering how to find fun and laughter with their best friend again while their world is full of stressors.
Just as you both are unique– your marriage is unique. The struggles and conflicts can be resolved. Life can return to “reasonably happily ever after.”
Call for an initial consultation to determine if I am the therapist to walk with you as a couple and help you to “find that loving feeling” again.
I consider it a privilege to work with first responders and their families. I believe our first responders, and their families, deserve and require specialized care. If you are a first responder, you know your life is a different variety from the average individual and family. Your training, and the things you experience on a daily basis, cause you to see the world through a first responder mindset. This mindset effects every relationship you have – parenting, marriage, friends, and family.
I believe it is vital for first responders to work with therapists who are familiar with their jobs and the affects their jobs have on their relationships. The awareness of how the people operate when the they are experiencing their worst days is something a first responder is confronted with daily. The body taking on adrenaline on a regular basis, the shift work, and the trauma you sometimes encounter all show up in your relationships. This is a normal occurrence. When the effects begin to interfere too much in your relationships or job, it is time to speak with a professional who can help you reset your system and help you gain back the enthusiasm you once had for your job. I have received, and continue to get, specialized training to be as effective as possible with first responders and their families.
I am Certified in Critical Incident Stress Management Debriefing and provide CISD’s for the many agencies and corporations. I have also taught at several law enforcement agencies and fire fighting agencies regarding stress management and resiliency.