The Support I Offer
I am passionate about joining with others in their journeys and helping them to create the relationships and the lives they are designed to step into. I seek to create a warm and nurturing environment in walking with clients through their pain, hurt, confusion and possible shame. Whether you are a man who is wanting to shake the rules of “manliness,” a woman who is wanting a life richer than the one you are living, a teen who is finding their way through the chaos of youth, or a couple who is struggling to understand one another and move on towards a stronger bond, I will listen and assist you to move through your Brave and Compassionate Journey.
I have spent the majority of my career as a therapist helping families and couples through life’s hurdles. I am not shy about carrying the hope for my clients when they feel there is no hope. My therapy approach is emphasizing connection with one another in relationships.
My Method and Manifesto
Over the past 25 or more years, I have received a lot of training in several modalities. (EMDR and The Gottman Model of Couples Therapy, IMAGO and EFT) However, the longer I work with people, the more I know that regardless of the modality of therapy used, the goal is to help my clients step out of fear and pain and into love, light and freedom.
My clients share that they appreciate my compassionate, no nonsense approach. I am not one to sit silently, asking, “How does that make you feel?” Instead, I am the therapist who will climb into the hole with you or your family; find out what has happened to get you stuck; and in a compassionate and knowledgeable way, show you the steps to take in order to climb out. I know change is sometimes difficult. Moving beyond the ‘stuckness’ of life takes real courage, but I know it is possible.
I am a wife of over 30 years (to one man who I am in love with), a mom of 4, and a G-Ma. My life, and that of my children’s lives, has been full of hills, twists, and turns. I know from the inside out about marriage, parenting, and trauma. I also know the freedom good common sense therapy and compassion, as well as continually practicing resiliency, can provide in life.
I consider it an honor to walk others through their own Brave and Compassionate Journey.
The First Responder Community
I especially consider it a privilege to work with first responders and their families. First responders and their families deserve and require specialized care. If you are a first responder, you know your life varies from the average individual and family. Your training, and the things you experience on a daily basis, cause you to see the world through a first responder mindset. This mindset effects every relationship you have – parenting, marriage, friends, and family.
I believe it is vital for first responders to work with therapists who are familiar with their jobs and the affects their jobs have on their relationships. The awareness of how the people operate when the they are experiencing their worst days is something a first responder is confronted with daily. The body taking on adrenaline on a regular basis, the shift work, and the trauma you sometimes encounter all show up in your relationships. This is a normal occurrence. When the effects begin to interfere too much in your relationships or job, it is time to speak with a professional who can help you reset your system and help you gain back the enthusiasm you once had for your job. I have received, and continue to get, specialized training to be as effective as possible with first responders and their families.
EMDR and Trauma
I am certified and provide trauma therapy and EMDR for those who want relief and refreshment at a very deep level. EMDR has been found to be effective in working with individuals with trauma. It is a tool that is used with “Big T” traumas (acute, one time events), such as accidents, assaults, and events outside the norm of daily events. EMDR is also effective in treating “Small t” traumas (chronic) that keep us stuck in self-defeating patterns. These “Small t” traumas are often things we have gone through some years past and believe we have moved beyond them. However, bullying, being yelled at, failures of the past can still haunt us in our responses to similar situations today.
EMDR is approved by the Department of Veterans Affairs and the Department of Defense as a treatment for PTSD. I provide EMDR and trauma therapy for firefighters, CHP, veterans, law enforcement officers, nurses, and EMS. As I take my clients through the journey of recovering from trauma, I also teach coping and emotional regulating skills, and self-care.
You can read more about What is EMDR from the EMDR Institute.
Critical Incident and Stress Management, Speaking and Consultation
I am Certified in Critical Incident and Stress Management (CISM) and work with corporations, state and federal agencies in this capacity. I am a member of the International Critical Incident Stress Foundation. I participate as a mental health provider in teams after an incident happens that is outside of the normal standard for an agency or corporation. It is an honor to use my training in CISM to ease the trauma of difficult situations among teams and individuals.
I also speak regularly to groups, organizations, and agencies regarding stress management, parenting, resiliency, and difficult communications.The feedback I receive regarding my presentations is that I am a dynamic, relevant presenter. People come away inspired and encouraged. I engage the audience and tailor my messages for each organization I speak to.
I love speaking to organizations and I love my work with people in crisis. Giving back to those who do so much for all of us has provided a deeper meaning to my practice.
Fulfilling “My Manifesto” continues to be my goal in life. Please call or email if you are interested in any of the services I offer. I will be happy to talk with you and help you in your individual journey!
Critical Incident Stress Management
International Critical Incident Stress Foundation
EMDR International Association
California Association of Marriage Family Therapist